My Done it List

I like lists. no. I love lists.

Lately I've been dealing with feeling down/feeling depressed/complete lack of self motivation to do anything except make sure the kids survive the day fed, clean and happy.

Something had to change. It got to the point that I didn't want to do any housework because no matter what I did, the house still looked like two very active toddlers lived in it.

And I do a lot. or I felt like I did. My body sure acted like it's done a lot in the course of the day. But I really felt like I didn't have much to show for it at the end of the day when Husband gets home.

We've had multiple conversations about how my job as a stay at home mom isn't to make sure the house stays spotless. It's the care for, play with, teach and feed our kids. I am not the maid. Husband definitely does more than his fair share especially considering he's gone about 65 hours a week financially supporting his family.

But I feel like because I am home almost 24/7 I should take on the majority of the household duties. But I like I wrote before, it gets so frusterating at the end of the day. It really looks like nothing has been done most days.

I really needed something to help team morale.

I thought about making a to do list every night before I went to bed that outlined the things I wanted to get accomplished the next day. But I quickly realized that a to do list only leaves me feeling overwhelmed at this point.

So ... what's another option?

How about a "Done it" list?

yes. A list of everything I accomplish during the day.

Things I don't put on the done it list:

any housework I do while Husband is home

anything dealing with taking care of the kids (except their clothes laundry and son's diaper laundry)

putting things in the washing machine -- it only gets recorded when the load gets put away

Things I put on the do it list:

every thing else.

emptying the dishwasher counts as one

filling it counts as one

watering the garden counts as one (as long as I do it before Husband gets home)

I've been at this for 2 weeks now and it's really helping my state of mind. I AM doing things. It's right there in my spiral index card "notebook." It's quickily become a little competition I have with myself.

Some days I feel lazy and only do two things (my record low) and other days I feel really productive and sometimes do 14 things (my record high -- completed today). But I try to have a weekly average of 7 things.

This is last Wednesday's list.

As you can see I only did two things: emptied the dishwasher and saved baby birds (blog coming soon). The water spots on the side of the page are not my distraught tears from finding two baby birds in Son's room ... I think I just left my list too close to the sink!

It seems to really be helping. I feel less downtrodden and like to see the list after a "busy" day.

My Dirty Journal

my dirty journal and all its pieces.

The story of how My Life: vol. 5, Mommy's Book of Secrets turned into a shower toy for my favorite two toddlers:

Husband and I have a pretty big custom built shower in our bathroom. It's a great place for the kids to cool off after playing outside. They can walk around in it. Play. Get wet, not get wet. I let them play in there about once a day while I'm in the bedroom or bathroom feet away, listening to their silliness.

Last week, I was sitting on the bed finishing up a crochet project and the kids were playing in the shower. Well, Daughter was playing in the shower and Son was coming back and forth from the shower to the bed adjacent.

I'm paying little attention to what Son is holding as he goes back to the shower. About a minute later, Daughter yells something that I don't exactly remember. Something about "it is dirty" Then Son squeals. This was a new phrase for her (even in the shower) and it piqued my curiosity. I walk the few feet from my bed to my shower and peek in.

...

Daughter was lathering up my journal and Son was holding their container of soap.

lathering

up

my

journal.

(keep calm. keep calm. keep calm. If you lose control they will both get upset and then all three of you will be crying and your journal will still be soaked. rescue the journal deal with the kids later.)

I step into the shower. snatch my very water logged journal up off the floor and in the calmest voice I can muster I croak out something like, "My journal was not dirty. That was a no no no." I'm pretty sure it came out as a screech.

I take the journal to the counter, start flipping through the pages. they are mostly ok. the top, bottom and outer side inch was soaked on all the pages, but the middles of the pages were still dry. I calm down a little. My journal has really thick pages. I think it has a pretty good chance of drying out.

So, I turn around to start doling out the age appropriate punishment for each child even though I wasn't sure what that was yet and I notice the floor. pages of my journal on the floor. the inside front cover on the floor. They ripped out 8 pages and most of the inside over. Again because the pages are thick I was able to get them laid out flat to dry. I became slightly traumatized. I stuck my head back in the shower to announce shower play time was over because it is a no no no to bring books in the shower and wash them. That was all the discipline I could manage at the time.

(sigh)

I still haven't tried to put it back together yet. tape, staples, whatever. I'm not quite ready yet. The book is hard to close and the pages while not quite stuck together are hard to turn. And they are definitely water damaged.

Oh what a story Volume 5 has to tell! Also, I've learned that my bed side table is no longer a safe place for my journal.

the potty training post :updated on bottom

I don't know when it ok to actually declare a child "potty trained."

I assume when the accidents stop. But on day 1 of no accidents? week 1 of no accidents.

eh. I have no clue.

All I know is that in the middle of June, Daughter was down to only wearing a diaper when we left the house and one at night. She'd been having dry naps for a few months already.

So, after one week of dry nighttime diapers, I decided we were finished with diapers for Daughter. We went to wal-mart so she could pick out more panties. At this point she only had three pair of "Manny panties" (handy manny boys' underwear). I was pretty certain she'd pick the buzz lightyear boys briefs or the sesame street girls panties. but she shocked me by picking a large pack of pink, purple, white and orange panties of various designs. (this led Husband and I to have a very long discussion about gender identifying)

Anyway, the first night she was confused about why she wasn't wearing a diaper to bed even though I'd been telling her most of the day, she wasn't going to wear diapers anymore.

It's been close to two months now and she's only had one accident. At the very beginning on the way to the grocery store when she'd just told me five minutes before that she didn't have any teetee in her body. (one of her favorite urine related phrases)

She still has trouble putting shorts back on and she always wants to take off dresses when it's time to use the toilet. But she's doing really great.

At 18 months, we first introduced her to the little potty and she got a hershey kiss every time she used it. We didn't make a big deal about it. Just started talking about using the toilet instead of diapers and started letting her go around without a diaper sometimes. It went well. Then at about 2 she told me she needed to use the potty at Lowe's. It was the first time she ever used a regular sized toilet and after that, Daughter did not want to use her little baby bjorn potty anymore.

I really worried about how to break her of the hershey kiss treat. But that's gone well too. We just stopped offering it to her and only giving her one if she asks. And that's down to less than once a day at this point.

Yes, leaving the house is a bigger hassle. There's the "go use the potty before you get dressed" argument. There's the "I have to go use the potty," but really she just wants to go to the bathroom and wash her hands situation. There's the "I need help pulling up my pan-ties" time waster.

But it's really nice to have her in underwear.

So what about all our cloth?

At the time we had a dozen prefolds, 9 pockets with snaps and 26 pockets with velcro. too many for one little boy. seemed wasteful to me to have that many.

Cottonbabies.com (where we buy most of our cloth diapers) has a program called "Growing up in Cloth" where you can trade in your old diapers toward store credit for new diapers.

Now, most of my diapers are in such shape that I would be embarrassed to give them to a cloth diapering friend. It's true. After a year and a half and two kids, elastic needs repair, velcro needs replacing. They look shabby and very well worn. I couldn't in good faith give those to a friend.

But I can mail then to cotton babies and ask for money. I mailed in 13 bumGenius3.0 and they offered me $65. My mom offered to buy me 6 bumGenius4.0 for Son. So, subtract $65 from the price of 6 new ... my mom saves some money and Son gets some better fitting diapers and I don't have as many diapers taking up room. (I'm getting all snaps this time so hopefully when Son is potty trained I CAN pass those on to friends.) win, win, win, win.

I'm excited to order the new ones.

now before I go. A picture of Daughter walking to the bathroom. She's not about to go ... I just asked her to walk down the hall so I could take her picture.

UPDATE: February 8, 2013.

My original post was written years ago and still it's one of my most views posts.  I assume it's because parents are looking for advice, tricks, tips, SANITY when potty training their kids. I am no expert.  I am just a mom.  My Daughter was super easy and super fast to potty train. My Son ... not at all.  He would poop in the floor for awhile.  He'd pee on anything.  It was much more a test of my patience.  And really, years later that's my advice.  Patience.  Your kid is still a baby. (the definition of baby in our house is someone who doesn't wear underwear and has to get their butt wiped by mom or dad.)  Give encouragement, praise and bribes, if necessary.  but, just be patient. Chances are they won't be wearing a diaper to kindergarten.

Daughter and Art

I bought these Crayola window crayons MONTHS ago. They have the consistency of some crayola pastels I've had for years and they clean off glass in a cinch.

It took Daughter a LOT of convincing that it was ok to color on the glass doors because for so long she's heard, "crayons are only for paper." Finally, she believed me that these were special "glass door crayons" and she was not going to get in trouble.

Behind her you can see almost see the art she drew on the door ... and all the smudges she/we made in the process. She's also holding up the picture she drew when she tired of the glass.

She loves to use crayons, markers, colored pencils, chalk, pastels, paint. pretty much anything I'll let her use. I love that she can draw circles now ... even though they look mostly like hearts.

This is a little bit of Daughter's art gallery in her bedroom. Aside from the heart in one of the pictures, it's all her work.

Son in the rain

We have lots of pictures of Daughter playing in the rain (while wearing her lady bug raincoat and while not) but this was the first time there was a good steady rain with no thunder and lightening AND Son was awake.

This was almost a month ago and he was more interested in filling his container with water than posing for pictures.

sheesh, it wasn't very long ago when those shorts went all the way down to his lower calves.

He was showing me his water in this one.

making sure there's still some in there.

Man, I love this kid. He's fantastic. So laid back and gentle. But don't be fooled by his very sensitive emotions, he's also a very silly little boy. And I cannot forget, Son is a climbing maniac.

GARDEN UPDATE

This is the first of almost a dozen blogs I need to catch up on. Hopefully, in a week I'll be back on track.

OK, lots has been going on in the garden. Here we go.

yellow squash: gone. I bite the bullet and pulled them up. and to tell the truth, after about 5 minutes of guilt ... I feel nothing but relief. Next year I'm only going to plant 2 instead of 4 so we don't burn out on them. And I'm also planting a different variety. Probably the crookneck early golden summer

basil: I plan on bringing in the two planters I have most of our basil in when the frost hits. but just in case it doesn't do as well once indoors, I'm letting one branch go to seed. (not pick the flowers and let seeds develop to have some for next spring if these die ... or if any one wants to use them)

livingston musk melons: we've eaten two and we're waiting for the other 11 to grow grow grow. Son loves them, Daughter not so much. I can't wait to share these. AND save the seeds for next year and for anyone who wants to grow their own.

eggplant: I pulled it up too. But saved seeds for next year. We only got about 6 eggplants off of the three plants. But I blame most of that on poor placement and the flea beetles. Next year, they will not be crowded by tomatoes and I'll be waiting for the flea beetles and not let them get out of control.

banana peppers: I pulled those up too. I didn't want to can them and I seemed to be the only one who wanted them. And they were beginning to overtake the counter. TOO many. I accidentally had 3 plants of just banana peppers. poor note taking. Next year, I will only have one plant max.

butternut squash: they are still doing well. I'm patiently waiting for them to be ready so I can share them also. While I hate that my cucumber seeds didn't end up being cucumbers, I'm excited to have the butternut squash. Next, year I'll get new cucumber seeds AND I've picked out a Waltham Butternut Squash

ok, on to the fun. pictures.

This is our Star of David okra. We got a late start on it, so we've only gotten about a half a dozen okra off our 4 plants so far. more to come I'm sure. btw, this variety is named Star of David because when it's sliced, that's exactly what it looks like.

An okra bloom.

These are one of the peppers we got from our garden guru. I think it's an Anaheim. I'm waiting on email confirmation. Once I know what it is and how hot/sweet it is, I'll start using it in food!

sure, I could just taste it and I probably will.

This is another garden guru pepper. I have no idea what it is. waiting email confirmation.

And the tomatoes are still going strong. You can see the Juliets have taken over the Stupice. the grow and live together. because we planted them so close together we can't save the seeds. Luckily, we visited the garden guru Sunday and got some of their Juliets (and I did save those seeds) I decided we're not doing the stupice next year. I want to replace them with a bigger producer. And I've 98% decided on Jersey Giants. Now that I've fallen in love with canning tomatoes, I need a plant that can feed my addiction. I think this one will do it.

This is half of our onion haul. I didn't take a picture after I washed them. This is the best I've got. We planted purple, white and yellow. while most of them are about golf ball sized, there were three that were peach sized. I love these onions. We get the onion in the ground and the green onion above ground. I'll probably grow the same amount next year.

These are 1/4 of our potatoes. The rest are still in the dirt. As you can see they really vary in size. I think that's because I planted them so close together. Next year I'm thinking about decreasing the number I plant but giving them the same amount of space. We haven't eaten any of these yet ... but tonight we're grilling hamburgers, so I might cook them up too.

This weekend I'm planning on using all my free space to plant ching chang bok choy , spinach and broccoli. I'm excited about that. really excited.

Wordless Wednesday: Mexican lunch

lots to blog about ... soon

not to be a tease but just to let you know there are things in my head that I need to get out.

upcoming blog posts:

(in no particular order)

• Daughter's use of panties
• the garden, multiple updates
• geocaching
• crochet
• my waterlogged journal
• homemade ice cream
• my "done it" list
• canning

I think that's all. If I could find my camera I might be able to remember a couple more.

Anyway, hopefully in the next week I can get them out of my head and onto the screen.


I FORGOT THE BIRDS. How could I have forgotten the baby birds? It was traumatizing. (to me, at least.)